Parenting brings with it many challenges that we are more or less (not) ready for.
Raising a child is a wonderful and very challenging role in every person’s life. The parent is there to care for, nurture, guide and guide the child at all stages of growing up. But parenting also brings with it a number of challenges that we are more or less (not) ready for. And while almost all jobs require some education, schooling, a permit, or at least a course, parenting is a must. Many parents educate their children according to their parents ‘model (ie how they were raised), and many do the opposite to avoid their parents’ mistakes.
Numerous studies have shown that there are four different educational styles that often lead to the development of the same traits in children:
1. Authoritarian upbringing style
An authoritarian upbringing style involves rigorous and demanding parents who exercise discipline with threats and punishments. Mostly the negative sides of the child are highlighted. They show very little warmth towards the child, appreciate obedience, respect, authority and tradition. Their communication is one-way. They do not explain their actions and decisions. This form of parenting most often creates a disgruntled, insecure and withdrawn child who cares to please the parent. Children are not motivated for anything but what is important for parents to gain their affection, and they are often aggressive.
2. Indulgent upbringing style
Parents who are very focused on the child, satisfy him in everything, show a lot of warmth and positive feelings, have no demands on the child and all allow him to prefer an indulgent style of education. This form of parenting most often creates a well-disposed child who has no sense of responsibility, is insecure and immature. As a result of unclear and non-existent boundaries, the child has poor self-control, is spoiled, impulsive and aggressive. The child develops insecurity and low self-esteem.
3. Indifferent upbringing style
An indifferent upbringing style applies to parents who are self-absorbed and do not pay too much attention to their children. They avoid two-way communication and do not care what happens in the children’s world because they are overloaded with their own. This form of parenting most often leads to a child’s mood swings that are not interested in school and have no control over their behavior. This is most evident during adolescence, when the child expresses insecurity and loss, so there is a risk of socially undesirable behaviors such as addiction development, delinquency and the like.
4. Authoritative upbringing style
Parents who strive to raise their children to show warmth and care for the child, encourage two-way communication, ask the child for opinion, and take care of the child’s feelings fit into the authoritative parenting style. They explain their actions and expectations, and adjust the requirements for the child to the age of the child.
This type of education will most often lead to a confident and confident child who has high self-esteem, is responsible, has good self-control and is motivated.
Regardless of which parenting style you belong to and in which descriptions you identify yourself with, there are some universal tips and basic rules for educating children:
– Be consistent and consistent in your upbringing practices to create a sense of security for your child. Kids like to have clear boundaries set because they function more easily in a rules world.
– set an example for your children. It is best learned by imitating.
– Make specific demands on the child. Give him an opportunity for responsible and partner behavior. Explain to the child the reason for making specific requests and adjust the requirements to the child’s age.
– Teach children to know how to wait and give up something.
– teach them independence and responsibility.
– when making coercion, make sure that the child knows that he or she is loved. He must understand that coercion is about the procedure, not the procedure.
– criticize the child’s actions, never him or her as a person.
– Do not engage in degrading comparisons, belittling, excessive convictions, and physical punishment when communicating with your child.
– Be patient, persistent, consistent, have an understanding and be supportive of your child as these are the foundations of every good upbringing.